Dating your housemate
It’s inevitable, and it will make it harder for you to get some space and adjust to your new romantic relationship.
Not to get too parental here, but how realistic is it that the relationship will last more than a few weeks?
So here’s the thing: people write us with all sorts of scenarios, often involving their roommates, their roommates’ significant others, and general relationships-when-you’re-living-in-an-apartment type questions. There’s also other relationship-related apartment considerations. For example, when is it time to move in with your significant other?
If you don’t believe me, check out the comments on our article about a roommate’s girlfriend. It’s par for the course – issues always surface, whether they’re disastrous or minor.
We'd signed a lease thinking our seamless ability to write and edit together would translate into a chill living situation.
When we'd first met on the student newspaper in college, I thought Sean was a brilliant genius and incredibly handsome.
Much like if someone were absent-mindedly walking into the path of an on-rushing bus, if I found out a friend were considering dating a roommate, I would sprint, dive and pull him or her out of harm’s way. Here’s why: Sometimes it’s clear you’re both on the same page. Normally, were this person not your roommate, I’d say, go ahead, put yourself out there. If you’d gone on a first or second date with someone (even someone you’d known previously), would you then want to live with him or her? like, right away share a home, after your first date? Yet, if you date your roommate, that’s exactly what will happen.
After a date, you may want to call your friend and gab about how it went …
These were the kinds of arguments a long-term couple can survive and a new one shouldn't be having.
Bedding your cohabitator seems like an obviously terrible idea, and yet, for some, it's like putting chunks of meat in front of a hungry lion.
except that’d be hard when your date’s one room over, and you might accidently bump into him or her later that night in the kitchen.
Not to overstate the obvious here, but if you start dating someone, you’re going to start acting differently … Which means that you and the roommate won’t have the same roommate-roommate relationship you once had – and the new dating relationship might not be at all like you expect.
The 21-year-old student and her roommate Matt had become hookup buddies after she moved in with him and his sister.